college ships. (how to not wreck them)

Jarrett and Denia (2009)






#ishouldprobablybethelastpersonpostingthisbut....

Here's a list of things I feel can help you if you're in a relationship and trying to make it work in college.

1) realize you don't have to be in one.-

Hello, dude. You're AT YOUR PRIME. If you don't want to be commited to anyone, save you and the other person some time and don't be in a relationship! This is probably the most important bullet point in this post.

2) After you commit to a relationshipLet these dudes/ladies KNOW what's up-

you're always going to have to deal with meddlers ready to break up something good just to say they did it.

3)Send lovey-dovey random text messages

JUST DO IT! I love them.

4) Surround yourself with mutual friends + those that support the union

I cope with this a lot since I am in college and my boyfriend is not. Because of this, it is imperative that I engage him with my friends for multiple reasons. 1) So my friends won't try to get me to talk to other guys when I'm out without my BF, and 2) They will see how awesome he is and be jealous (kidding). No but seriously, you don't need friends whispering in your ear telling you that you don't need to be in a relationship, if you want to be in one.

5)Start new things together.


Get a puppy. Create a business plan. Ride a new roller coaster. Cowrite a book. Find a common ground and embark ona new journey together. Engage in activities that will teach you more about each other and you will learn so much about the type of person you're dealing with, and ultimately discover if the relationship is something work investing in.


TIME IS OF THE ESSENCE






READER QUESTION: How do you cope with your college relationships? Or do you?

LOVE.

Just a few minutes ago, he pissed me off to no avail.

I swear I just wanted to ...

I wanted to.....

hurt him.

by leaving, but I couldn't.

I put the key in the ignition, went down the street

and I started to think.

What am I even mad about?

Then I thought...

man...its Christmas time and ish....(I don't even celebrate this pagan thing but hey)...

Then I thought...
I just can't leave him alone.

So I busted a u-turn

Then I thought....

He holds a part of my spirit...

And I'm always gonna need that.

♥

leopard print seat covers in transit.

Meet Solace.




This is me and Jarrett's new project. We scored the pup from one of my dance sisters (for free, yipee), and we fell in love with him!

However, I guess to combat the notion his name bears, lil dude either doesn't like me, or he's become too high-class to sit in a mediocre 2011 Ford compact car for all of 20 minutes. He totally massacred my new car--with DOG POOP!

Omgah I wish we had taken a photo--of my face. I was so upset I could strangle him, but then he hit me with those undeniable puppy eyes of his. Can't believe not long after we spent HOURS cleaning the inside of my car (carpet interior), I still found myself shopping for doggy sweaters.


(Sigh), this is obviously the beginning of a beautiful friendship.





BLEH.

-__-

I'll send you my love....on a wire.

No, I'm not dead. (pause)

butttt I've been ignoring this blog like craaazyyyy (major sad sace).

WHAT CAN I SAY?

This semester was gruesome. Between Spelman and Essence (dance line), I don't know where my mind is; it's all over the place!

However, good news is my Jarrett is back and we're back in action! After the almost year that he spent living in Baltimore, he finally came back! (big grin) We went to my grandmothers house over Thanksgiving break and reunited with my fam.




SHOPPING WISE:

My pockets have been slowing alll theee wayy down. I've been working at Metropark as a seasonal employee lately so I haven't been indulging in my Betsey as usual--but I'll be back on the map soon enough!

In the mean time I've been thrifting mostly, which is more fun anyway. :)

LATERZ. I'll be back.